Dominant

A Dominant enjoys being the one who decides what happens, with a partner who has agreed to follow. The appeal is responsibility and trust as much as control: you are being handed the wheel, and you are expected to drive well.

Signs you might lean this way

• You like planning what will happen and watching it unfold
• Being trusted to take charge feels good, not burdensome
• You pay close attention to how your partner is responding

How the test scores it

Your Dominant score comes from how much these three statements appeal to you:

• Taking charge and deciding what happens next
• A partner following my instructions because they want to
• Being trusted to set the pace and the rules for an evening

The other side: Submissive

Dominant pairs with Submissive. You like to hand over the lead to someone you trust. The two are scored separately, and it is common to score well on both.

Talking about it

Say what you would like to be in charge of, and ask what they would never want decided for them. Leading well starts with knowing the limits.

Take the kink test to see how Dominant sits beside the other 25 roles, or browse all roles.