For adults, 18+
Vanilla test
How vanilla are you, really? 27 questions put your taste for simple, equal intimacy next to one question from each of 24 kink roles.
27 questions, about 3 minutes. No sign-up, no email. Your answers stay on this device.
Vanilla is a score, not the absence of one
Tests that treat vanilla as “no kink detected” get it backwards. Liking tender, equal, uncomplicated intimacy is a preference with its own pull. So this test asks about it directly, three times, and scores it from 0 to 100 like every other role.
The result shows your Vanilla score beside everything else. Three patterns are common:
- High vanilla, low elsewhere. You know what you like and it does not need props.
- High vanilla and high elsewhere. The most common result among people who call themselves kinky. Both can be true.
- Low vanilla. Conventional intimacy leaves you wanting something more structured or more intense. The full kink test will tell you what.
Curious is not the same as kinky
In a representative Belgian survey, 22% of adults had fantasised about a BDSM-related activity without ever trying one (Holvoet et al., 2017). If a few of the statements made you think “maybe”, that is ordinary, and there is no obligation to act on it. If you want to explore gently, a Yes / No / Maybe list is the lowest-pressure way to find out what a partner is open to.
Questions people ask
What does vanilla mean?
Conventional intimacy: affectionate and equal, without power roles, restraint or equipment. The word comes from vanilla being the default flavour. It is a description, not an insult.
Is it bad to be vanilla?
No. Vanilla is the most popular flavour for a reason. Enjoying closeness without roles or props is a preference like any other, and most kinky people enjoy vanilla sex as well.
Can you be vanilla and kinky?
Yes, and most people are. Vanilla is scored on its own scale here, so you can score high on it and high on something else. It only becomes a mismatch if a partner wants one and you want only the other.
My partner is kinkier than me. What now?
Find the overlap. Each of you fills in a Yes / No / Maybe list and you look only at what you both marked yes or maybe. There is usually more common ground than either person expected.