Role
Submissive
You like to hand over the lead to someone you trust.
A Submissive enjoys letting a trusted partner make the decisions for a while. It is a choice, made in advance and revocable at any time, and many people find it restful: for once, someone else is steering.
Signs you might lean this way
- Being told what to do by the right person is appealing
- You relax when you do not have to decide
- Pleasing a partner is rewarding in itself
How the test scores it
Your Submissive score comes from how much these three statements appeal to you:
- Letting a partner I trust take charge
- Being told what to do by the right person
- Putting a partner's wishes first and enjoying how that feels
The other side: Dominant
Submissive pairs with Dominant. You like to lead and set the direction. The two are scored separately, and it is common to score well on both.
Talking about it
Tell them what you would enjoy being directed in, and name a clear stop word. Giving up control only works when you know you can take it back.
Take the kink test to see how Submissive sits beside the other 25 roles, or browse all roles.